It’s no secret that some wedding traditions are still very much alive today. The bride tossing her bouquet over her head? Definitely. Keeping the wedding dress a secret from the groom until the big day? Yep — and so was the wish of one bride, until one of her bridesmaids decided to spoil everything by sharing a photo of the wedding dress on Facebook.
The upset bride shared her story on the online forum Mumsnet, where she also asked for advice. “I know I probably am but just wanted to hear others opinions on whether they would be sad about it or if I just need to get a grip,” wrote the bride in a post. “Getting married soon and after trying on a lot of different dresses I finally found the one, something I never thought I would due to being very body conscious and anxious. Went back for final fitting at the weekend and took one of my bridesmaids as she wanted to see.”
According to the bride, the guilty bridesmaid took a photo of the bride in her wedding dress, which she then shared on Facebook. As if that weren’t bad enough, the bridesmaid actually tagged the bride’s partner in the post. It wasn’t until after the appointment that the bride noticed the photo. Needless to say, she confronted the bridesmaid with what she’d done and asked her to remove the photo.
The bridesmaid’s response? “It doesn’t matter if he’s seen it, he’s a man so he will have forgotten what it looks like in 5 minutes’ time.”
Apparently, the bride had already told the bridesmaid in advance that she planned to keep her wedding dress a secret from her fiance and her father until the big day. “I just don’t know what to do or how to feel! I am so gutted that it now won’t be a surprise to my partner or my dad,” she wrote on online forum Mumsnet. “She knew how much that meant to me and the only thing I had asked for was that details of how I will look on the day were kept a surprise from my dad and partner. As I paid in installments the dress is now fully paid for and I don’t have time to get another one and do all the alterations etc. Someone tell me I will stop feeling like this soon!”
Many users sent the bride supportive messages on the forum, reminding her that her wedding day wasn’t completely ruined. “Very bad form on her part. What’s done is done. You can either let it spoil your wedding or you can get over it. I’d try and get over it,” wrote one user. “I’d ditch her. To break her promise and your trust like that is horrible and not what a friend should even think of doing,” said another. “Your day will still be special though. I promise,” commented another.
A friendly message to all bridesmaids: Don’t share any wedding details on social media or otherwise unless you have the bride’s permission!